How can one sustain a lasting romantic relationship? Majority of couples tend to slowly drift away from their partners without realizing it. This is attributed to a lot of factors such as domestic problems that may cause misunderstanding between husband and wife, too much focus on career that limits the attention of the couples for each other. Too much familiarity that breeds contempt for each other. Even petty things can cause relationships to break
Keeping a lasting relationship entails efforts from both husband and wife. Here are some tips you can employ to sustain your relationship.
Be sensitive
You have to listen and look at the things that are not said and done. For example, when a couple are newly married, they usually give each other a kiss when they arrive home to their spouse. As the years go by, they forget to kiss their spouse when they get home.This may be petty but it can cause a slow deterioration of the relationship.
Keep the romance and intimacy going
How does one do this? Do not let the romance and closeness die down. If you have been a bit indifferent to each other, get back on your feet and rekindle the intimacy and the romance you had when you were newly married or when the courtship was still going. Say sweet nothings to each other like you use to do. You can go to the park and relieve your courtship days, to the movies and watch like lovers, to ice cream parlor and enjoy each others' company. You can do a lot of things to keep your romance and intimacy alive.
Keep your interest in your partner alive
Don't relegate your partner at the sidelines. Make your partner the center of your life. Be interested in what your partner is doing, feeling and thinking like when you were still dating. Make your partner feel important in your life and join each others' activities.
Keep the communication lines open
Many couples who have been into their relationship for quite sometime tend to forget to communicate with each other. They presume that they are understood even without telling their partner. This is not true. Your partner is not a mind-reader neither a fortune teller who can guess what's in your mind or what you want to do. You have to communicate to your partner your thoughts and feelings on certain issues. You have to be open to allow you both an opportunity to resolve your concerns.
Spend more time together
Make sure to spend more time together. When you were dating you can spend hours with each other just talking, roaming around and exploring just anything. You have a lot of memories on those times and doing that after a few years of being together could bring back a lot of excitement for the both of you. You can back track and go to the places you use to go or do the things you did when you were very new. This will evoke emotions that you thought were no longer there. Memories can do a lot to rekindle the love you had and to strengthen your relationship.
Keep the excitement in your relationship
When you were dating, you were always eager to be with each other. The excitement of seeing each other kept your relationship alive. Even if you have been together for a long time, you can always make your relationship exciting by doing things together or surprising your partner with a flower or a gift even if their is no occasion. You can put a note on the pillow "It was a great night", "you're still handsome", "you look beautiful even in sleep". Simple things such as these can keep the excitement alive.
In the early years of your relationship, you do things together, everything. This is because you wanted to help each other and experience together while staying close to each other. You can do that again, you prepare dinner together, you do laundry, clean the house together. In this way, you will strengthen your ties and keep your going.
It is easier said than done but if you're not going to do it, then your relationship is doomed. You can talk this out with your partner and work on it. There is no such thing as perfect relationship. Every relationship has its own ups and downs and the success of a lasting relationship is dependent on each of the partners. The effort of each partner has to be complemented by the other, otherwise it will not work.
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